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Why You Can’t Break Free of the Same Ole Toxic Patterns

It’s not easy to sit in our own shit. Really sit in it. Face our own limitations and be honest how we’re the problem in our lives. It’s much easier to project blame or make excuses. 

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by Emily Atkinson in SELF DISCOVERY, SHADOW WORK
August 30, 2021 0 comments

I don’t know about you, but the moments I get fed up are the moments I have the biggest breakthroughs. 

I’ve been looking at the life I want to live. The one I crave deep down in my soul. The one I can envision clearly and wish for under every New Moon. And then I’ve been looking at why I’m not living it. 

Not why filled with spiritual arrogance – “I need to practice more gratitude” “I need to use more positive affirmations” or the worst “you need to see it to believe it” 

Look, it’s not that I don’t believe in those things, I do, but they can hold us back from taking responsibility for our lives, and doing the deeper work. 

This week I’ve been taking responsibility. Brutally. I’ve been looking at ALL of my bad habits, faults and how I limit myself. It’s been humbling, hard and eye opening. 

It’s not easy to sit in our own shit. Really sit in it. Face our own limitations and be honest how we’re the problem in our lives. It’s much easier to project blame or make excuses. 

I’m sharing this with you because we all do this! Yes, even Coaches who focus on Shadow Work (aka me!).

It’s called being human. It doesn’t matter how “woke” you are or how much healing or self-growth work you’ve done, there’s always going to be a self-imposed limitation or block. New level, new devil. 

And until we can remove our rose colored glasses those self-imposed limitations will control our lives. They’re also very tricky – you may not even be aware that it’s happening. I know I wasn’t! 

The invitation today is to begin exploring this. Imagine a ball of yarn and right now we’re pulling on one thread so the ball of yarn can unravel. At the middle of the ball the reason why you’re holding yourself back will exist – what is your why?

Hint, hint… it’s usually rooted in an old wound. I’m not worthy. I don’t deserve success. I don’t belong. Fear of being seen or abandoned. Fear of success or failure. 

Also, think of the “why” like a Russian doll and keep asking yourself why. Each time you ask yourself why, you’ll be able to get deeper to the root. 

Once you can get clear on “the why” you will have access to changing the pattern. You gotta see it to free it. The walls of self-imposed limitations can begin to crumble and you can become free from what’s been holding you back. 

Here are some journal prompts to support the process: 

🐍 Where in your life are you playing small?

🐍 Where are you hiding?

🐍 Where are you putting others’ needs/desires above your own? 

Look, this work isn’t easy and you don’t have to do it alone.

That’s where I come in: Working with me is a journey home to your truest, most authentic, liberated self. I help brave souls remove all the layers of false identities, the shoulds and supposed to’s that dim their light and control their lives. And from that place, a place of freedom, expansion and true-self, I support and teach them how to redesign and align their lives with who they’d like to become.

Click here to learn more about working with me. I’m offering something new called Soul Sessions. 

They’re a time of guidance during any part of your spiritual awakening. We talk for 45 or 75 minutes on the topic(s) of your choice. Need a listening ear? Need someone to run an idea by? Feeling stuck and yucky and just need guidance?

No commitment, no contract. Simply a safe space for you to show up as the full you and be energetically held. 

Deeply devoted to your rising,

xo, 

Em 

 

P.S. I leave you with one of my favorite quotes by Creig Crippen…

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